Stop absorbing negative energy

11 Ways To Stop Absorbing People’s Negative Energy

How do you protect yourself from absorbing people’s negative energy?

In this day and age, it seems that every second person you meet is an empath.

In other words, more and more people are claiming to be able to absorb the negative energies of those around them.

To understand how people are feeling just by being close to them.

The truth is that consciousness as a whole is on the rise and what that means is that more and more people are waking up to spiritual sensitivity.

What’s more is that it’s not just those claiming to be empathic that are absorbing the energy of others, we all are!

Some just simply notice it more than others.

Think of a time in your life where you have absorbed someone else’s negative energy…

A man in water

Perhaps you watched your parents suffer from financial pain as a child and you remember their heartache as if it was your own…

Maybe you witnessed a friend going through a messy break up that opened up wounds inside you.

You may have even felt yourself being overcome with rage when someone around you was expressing their own anger…

The fact that you are reading this article likely means that somewhere along the line, you developed an increased awareness of other peoples emotions.

Suddenly everything changed…

Perhaps it was this awareness on its own that woke you up to just how much you have been absorbing peoples negative energy…

Let’s face it, trying to stay positive when you are surrounded by the negative energy of others is not the easiest task.

In fact, it can be downright frustrating! (a contradiction in itself).

You want to help your loved ones, but you also want to shake them!

You know that this loop of endless negativity is not only harming their manifestation journey but yours as well!!

If only they could break free and understand that we are the co-creators of our own reality.

That we are nothing but a mirror image of the energies we are emitting out to the universe.

Unfortunately, no matter how often you preach the power of positivity, sooner or later you will realize that not everyone is ready to be helped.

And sure, it would be easy to just cut these people out of your life entirely, in fact, in some cases that may be your only option…

But what if that negative energy is being absorbed from people you really care about?

How can you protect your manifestations from the negative energy of loved ones? How do you know if your only hope is to let that person go altogether?

First of all, let’s cover the basics…

Why Are Some People So Negative?

We, humans, are creatures of habit…

What does that mean?

Well, take a look around.

Think about the people you know. How many people are actually breaking their cycles?

Whether it is poverty mindset, toxic relationships, drama addiction or something else, the truth is that negative people don’t actually want to get out of the mess they have created for themselves.

They complain about it sure, but at the same time, it’s comfortable there.

It’s all they know…

“Stay away from negative people, they have a problem for every solution.”

Toxicity is often passed down from generation to generation.

The tendency to carry that negativity on is usually driven by the comfort and nostalgia that one feels when creating a situation that allows them to relive their childhood

Then there are those affected by environmental factors.

People who appear to come from great families but some other environmental circumstance has caused them to develop a field of negative energy around them.

For these people, it doesn’t matter how positive the situation is, they will always feel better tearing it down and replacing it with something negative.

You see, positivity is a choice…

Seems simple enough right?

Well for many people, happiness is the hardest choice they will ever make and “choosing happy“ doesn’t necessarily mean receiving it right away.

It’s a process that involves a complete restructuring of the mindset.

Restructuring your negative mindset is like re-coding an entire computer system. It’s a tedious task that requires a level of willpower, commitment, and skill.

Doesn’t Everyone Have Moments Of Negative Thinking?

First of all, it’s important to know the difference between a negative or toxic person and a person who experiences negative energy.

We all have our moments…

Moments that don’t go plan.

Emotions that we can’t repress…

Frustration, anger, sadness, grief…

Grief is natural

These are completely natural human emotions, therefore, we should never feel guilty or defeated for expressing them.

The ego brings these emotions to the surface in order to teach us and protect us from future hurt.

That’s a good thing right?

Accepting negative emotions with love and understanding is the first step toward becoming a more positive person.

Experiencing negative energy does not make you a toxic person…

Relying on negative energy as a coping mechanism does.

Do Negative People Affect Your Manifestations?

If you are new to manifesting and the Law of Attraction then you have probably noticed an increased sensitivity to energy.

You may not have been consciously aware before but as you start to awaken to the power of your own mindset, you may suddenly find yourself absorbing people’s negative energy.

It could be that your friend group is a lot more negative than you previously realized.

What was once harmless banter may now seem more like hurtful gossip, built up rage, insecurities, and criticism.

The truth is that negative people CAN affect your manifestations.

Here are some examples of how…

  • Criticism of your dreams and desires.
  • Encouraging low vibration emotions.
  • Planting seeds of doubt in your mind.
  • Scaring you out of making big leaps for fear of judgment.

Most of the time, these friend groups feed off one another’s negative energy so you will likely find your attempts to inject some positive vibes rendered useless…

You could also find that your attempts to “call out” the negativity in the group will bring nothing but a new reason for aggression.

The worst action you could take is none at all.

If you continue your normal routine in the group and feed into that negative energy, your manifestations will REALLY take a hit.

It’s one thing to be surrounded by negativity but it’s another thing entirely to indulge in it in order to please the group.

Always remember that like attracts like.

The emotions you send out to the universe will be the emotions you receive.

  • Jealousy attracts jealousy
  • Insecurity attracts insecurity
  • Anger attracts anger

And so on…

In other words, the negative influence of others can not only stop your manifestations but it can also bring down your vibration to attract more negativity into your life.

11 Ways to Stop Absorbing People’s Negative Energy

Here are 11 ways to stop absorbing other people’s negative energy allowing you to live the fulfilling life you deserve. 

1.) Dig Deep

This is about finding your triggers… 

What triggers you to absorb negative energy and why?

To dig deep you must first start with identifying the things that affect you the most.

It could be something someone says or perhaps the energy they hold when they say it…

For example:

If you have ever been through money struggles you will know the pain of hunger and lack well.

Having experienced this pain, you may find yourself extremely sensitive to it…

So when someone doubts your ability to achieve financial freedom you may find their doubt aggravating, depressing or even frightening…

This is a trigger.

It may be that a friend goes through a messy breakup and the pain they are feeling latches on to you.

It is not your pain but for some reason, you are very sensitive to it.

The pain cuts deep like a knife and you find yourself unable to cope.

This is another trigger.

There is no way to protect yourself if you can’t identify the root cause and the individuals who are firing at you (intentionally or otherwise).

Next time you feel yourself absorbing people’s negative energy, take some time to dig deep and really discover where it comes from.

2.) Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

The biggest catalyst for failure on this earth is worrying about what others will think.

So many people are afraid to step outside of their comfort zones for fear of rejection.

Sadly, this fear can lead people to their graves without ever pushing themselves to their true potential.

Fear is experienced by absorbing peoples negative energy.

You’ve seen it before no doubt.

Someone steps outside of the box to do something amazing and suddenly the negative people jump on the troll train, judging this person’s every move…

You don’t want that… and because you care so much about what other people think, because you have absorbed this negative energy, you hold yourself back from reaching for the stars.

Not caring about what other people think is easier said than done but if you are able to at least notice it when it happens, you are already winning.

The more you notice that you are holding yourself back from greatness, the more you will be able to start eradicating that fear.

Whenever you find yourself worrying about what others will think, ask yourself the following:

“Will it matter in a year? How about 5 years? Or 20?”

If you can make a huge leap that will eventually change your life, will it matter what people think?

You will be living your dream life and probably won’t even remember the names of those who doubted you…

No, their opinions won’t matter then and they don’t matter now!

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss

3.) Take A Break

If you feel like you are around someone that is doing nothing but leeching all over your positive vibes then it’s time to take a break.

Taking some time to yourself will allow you to reconnect with who you are as a person.

It will also allow you to recharge your positive vibes and thus make clear decisions on what you want out of life as well as how to best approach the situation with this negative person.

4.) Ignore It

When people get on a negativity streak they will do anything to feed their aggression.

Ignore it

How often have you seen an angry person go on and on about their problems, fishing for a response so they can explode with more rage?

As the saying goes “don’t poke the bear!”

As the negative person starts winding themselves up, they also push you to get wound up with them.

When used consciously, ignorance can be a handy tool for deflecting low vibrations.

It’s not just about keeping your mouth shut and offering no response.

It’s about completely shutting yourself off to the words as they are spoken, or walking away the minute the drama starts.

If you can learn to shut off, you can create a barrier against the negativity.

Try reciting an affirmation in your mind whenever someone starts up with their negative vibes.

Something like, “I attract only positivity into my life.”

If you focus all of your attention on mentally repeating your affirmation, then you can block out both the words and the energy that the other person is emitting out at you.

5.) Discuss Your Concerns With The Negative Person

This tip is only likely to work in 2 situations…

  1. When the person whose energy you are absorbing is not actually meaning to hurt you.
  2. When the person whose energy you are absorbing is ready to accept responsibility and change their negative ways.

It is important not to go into discussion with people about how their negative energy is affecting you because they WILL feel attacked.

Talk with people

They WILL get upset and this could cause things to get even worse.

When you confront someone about their negative energy, be tactful. 

If you say “you’re really negative and it’s bringing me down!”

You are probably not going to get a great response and the conversation will not be productive in any way.

If you can take some responsibility (even if you do not feel you are to blame), you will create a scenario that is more mutual and therefore nobody will feel ganged up on.

For example:

“Hey, I feel like our conversations have been kind of negative lately and I was wondering if you would like to make an agreement to both be more positive.”

If you can approach the conversation with love and acceptance, you will be more likely to get a positive result.

6.) Create An Energy Shield

Use an energy shield

Surround yourself with a protective shield that will deflect any negative energy that comes your way.

This visualization technique is a great one to start each day.

Imagine yourself being surrounded by a shield of light.

As you visualize this bubble-like, protective barrier, charge it with positive intent and affirmations that repel negative energy.

Affirmations for charging your energy shield:

  • I am protected by love and light
  • Only positive energy may be allowed to remain in my presence
  • My energy shield keeps me safe

7.) Learn To Say “No”

There is so much power in the word “No!

Sadly, in this day and age, many of us struggle with this simple word and it results in us absorbing people’s negative energy.

Learn how to say no

If you are finding yourself saying yes all the time, you are more than likely taking on some of the burdens of others and sacrificing your own happiness.

Never feel guilty about protecting yourself with the word “No”.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t offer service and support to those in need, it’s just about gauging your own energy.

Your energetic signature is precious and if you feel that it may be compromised by someone else or if you are going to walk away from a particular situation emotionally drained, then just say “No!”

8.) Distance Yourself

Sometimes when you evaluate how much of an effect someone’s energy is having on your life, the best plan is to simply distance yourself long term.

Have some distance

It doesn’t mean you have to cut this person off completely, but you may find that in order to protect your energy you need to start spending less time with them.

This may be difficult at first but over time it will get easier.

People grow apart all the time, even close friends and family members. It doesn’t mean that they love each other any less, it’s just that they take different paths in life.

9.) Surround Yourself With Amazing People

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

One of the best ways to dispel negative energy is to not lose sleep over it and instead shift your focus to more positivity.

Start surrounding yourself with people who lift you up and you will soon see the huge impact on your life.

When you find people who make you feel good, hold on to these rare gems and ensure that you bless them with radiant joy just as they do for you.

When you are using the Law of Attraction, you will start to find yourself naturally manifesting amazing friends who are on the same path as you are.

Just be patient and they will come.

Remember, like attracts like.

10.) Change Up Your Environment

Our environment plays a huge part in the energies we absorb.

Similar mindsets attract one another and form clusters.

This is why we experience entire neighborhoods of like-minded people.

If you had to generalize your entire neighborhood, what would be the most common aspect between people?

Are they happy or depressed?

Are they wealthy or living in poverty?

If you find yourself living in an area that attracts lack then it might be a good time to move.

Nobody has to spend their life being depressed or poor.

The power is within us all.

We are the co-creators of our own reality.

When you bring a large group of people together who share similar ways of thinking, it can be very difficult to separate yourself from them.

Clustered energy is like smog in the air and follows you around wherever you go.

If you are unable to move to somewhere more joyful right now, start using the Law of Attraction to manifest your move for the future.

In the meantime, take trips to the area you would like to live in.

Spend time breathing in fresh air.

Be around the people you want to align yourself with.

Use your visit as a visualization exercise.

Take a walk through the streets and admire the homes of your future neighbors.

These kinds of day trips can really bring up your positive energy as well as your determination to achieve your desires.

11.) Take Responsibility

It is one thing to point your finger at others and blame them for their negativity but it is another thing entirely to turn your attention inward and take responsibility for your own actions.

Take responsibility

When you pass blame, you create a negative charge around yourself.

It is important to be accepting and loving of the reality you have created even if there have been some bumps along the road.

Everything you have been through has bought you to this point.

Be thankful for your past experiences.

Good and bad.

Blame is a wasted emotion and not going to do anything for your future.

What If None Of This Works? – The Final Cut

Occasionally people find that they have an attachment to someone who has a particularly dark and negative hold over them.

Usually, these people are best friends, family members or spouses who seem to carry on affecting your life even when you have taken measures to protect yourself.

If you find yourself absorbing negative energy from someone who just won’t quit, it might be time to consider cutting them off completely.

You need to make a full evaluation of what you stand to lose and what you stand to gain by cutting this person out of your life.

If their negative energy is attaching itself to your manifestations, then you probably need to get rid of them as soon as possible.

Get Rid Of The Guilt

If this negative person is a family member or someone who has been in your life for a long time, then you may feel guilty about letting them go.

Your experience on earth is yours and yours alone.

It is up to you to determine the way that your life manifests.

If that means cutting someone off to ensure that you build the life that YOU want, then this is what you must do.

Other people have the opportunity to do the same but you can’t hold their hand and lead them where YOU want them.

If you are feeling guilty then that means that you are taking responsibility for someone else.

This is not your job.

They have to make that choice for themselves.


We are all affected by negative energy whether it be our own or other peoples.

There is no way to dispel negativity but you can be accepting of it and use techniques to protect your manifestations.

If all else fails, don’t be afraid to cut people off.

You will never be able to elevate anyone if you don’t first elevate yourself.

Be loving and understanding but know your limits and set some boundaries to shield your desires from those who wish to see you fail.

Bonus Video: Jake Ducey shares his insights and discusses powerful ways to deal with negative, toxic and difficult people.

Charlotte Rogers
Charlotte Rogers

Charlie is a spiritual manifestation coach/teacher that has helped thousands of people around the world manifest their goals and desires. She’s been featured on Elephant Journal, Addicted 2 Success & More!

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