How To Manifest Your Ex Back

How to Manifest Your Ex Back in 30 Days

I sat at the end of the bed…

Tears streaming down my face, sobbing uncontrollably.

All I could think of was “why?”

I looked up and saw my now ex-boyfriends face.

He looked down on me with pity, making me feel even worse.





“I’m sorry Charlie, I have to go.”

And then he turned around and left.

Just like that…

My heart sunk to the pit of my stomach.

How could this happen?

Was there someone else?

All I knew was that I couldn’t go on without him by my side…

Days went by.

Weeks even.

The pain was unbearable!

Everything you are feeling right now, I have been there…

Your friends and family might be looking at you like it’s just a broken heart and it will heal in time…

But the fact of the matter is, heartbreak is so much more than just pain!

It’s sleepless nights and not being able to function during the day…

You lose your concentration at work, your ability to enjoy time with friends and family… to think rationally…

Trust me, I completely understand what you are going through!


After the breakup, I reached out several times (probably sounding like a crazy person) but he didn’t respond.

We were soul mates…

There had to be something I could do?

I was already a big fan of the Law of Attraction before my boyfriend and I split up.

In fact, I had even manifested a few things…

The keys to my rented apartment.

A full-time job as an office clerk.

I believed in the power of manifestation, there was no doubt about that…

But could I use the Law of Attraction to manifest my ex back?


Between my manifestation routine and the tips I copied from Brad Brownings ex-factor course, I manifested my ex back in 37 days total.

(I will tell you more about how I was led to ‘The Ex-Factor’ later in the article so keep reading!!)

In fact, Tom and I are now stronger than ever before and he actually treats me a heck of a lot better than he did back then.

But I am sure you’re not interested in hearing me gloat about my perfect relationship… and to tell the truth, that’s not the reason I wrote this article.

For me, it’s time to pay it forward…

I want to help you!

Today I will outline exactly what I did to manifest my ex back so that you can do the same.

I know the pain of losing the person you love all too well.

What you are feeling right now is one of the most heart-wrenching experiences a person could go through.

If I could, I would reach out and give you a big reassuring hug.

But I will have to settle for the next best thing…

This is my step by step guide on how to win back the love of your soul mate using the power of manifestation…

And to make that love last the distance!

You Can Manifest Your Ex Back!

Now, there are people out there who are going to tell you that it’s not a good idea to get back together with your ex.

I know I dealt with a few negative people myself who criticized this decision…

And at first, it bothered me!

But then, I realized that they just didn’t get it!

They didn’t understand the effect a true soulmate has on your life…

They had created this false belief in their own heads that relationships should be perfect and that people can never make mistakes…

But deep down, I knew that this breakup was just a growth phase…

We both needed time apart in order to grow and be even better together than we were before.

Every relationship is different and in many cases, people do get their “happily ever after” with an ex-partner.

I mean let’s face it…

We create our own reality!

There is no reason to sacrifice what you really want just because someone else disagrees with your decision.

This is your life so do what makes you happy!

Happiness is the ultimate decider when it comes to knowing whether or not manifesting an ex back is right for you.

For example…

If your relationship is on and off in a constant cycle of pain and pleasure, your manifestation power will actually weaken over time.


Because toxic relationships cause us to radiate extremely low and negative vibrations.

If your ex-partner is someone who hurts you and causes pain to emit from your energetic being, then you really need to decide if this relationship is worth it.

That being said…

There are many people out there who have broken up over lesser issues, which when resolved could create a platform of great happiness and positivity.

These kinds of relationships are most definitely worth fighting for.

Ask yourself the question…

“Will this relationship assist both me and my ex to reach our highest potential?”

Perhaps there was an issue with distance or a misunderstanding of some sort.

The bottom line is that only you know what’s best for you!

Your Ex-Partner Has Free Will…


Now that you have made your decision let’s talk about the power of free will.

You see, we are all manifesting.

Every single person on this earth whether they know it or not.

So what happens if your intention is to be back together with your ex…

But their intention is to stay broken up?

This is where the law of free will comes in!

Due to the law of free will, you can not consciously manifest anything that is being counter manifested by someone else.


Because your energies are vibrating on different frequencies.

In other words, your individual desires are not aligning with one another.


Although we can’t manifest against it, free-will can be influenced!

It’s not uncommon for people to have a change of heart…

Especially where the Law of Attraction is involved!

When your ex’s resistance toward you comes down, the universe will quickly start creating scenarios to rebuild the relationship.

Give Your Ex-Partner Space

This is the first step to breaking down that resistance!

Now, space is not usually a Law of Attraction principle, however, in this case, you need to consider your ex’s own subconscious manifestations.

Think about their energetic field, not just your own.

Backlit sunset

There is no point chasing your ex while they are manifesting against your desire to get them back.

After a while, your ex will begin to drop the energetic force that is working against you but in order for this vibration to be weakened, you must give it time to cool down.

Commit To 30 Days No Contact

Often when we experience relationship breakdowns, we need to take time to re-center and re-align with ourselves as individuals.

It’s important to give your ex 30 days where you do not contact each other.

This is a time for your ex to clear their mind and focus on themselves for a while.

Likewise, you should do the same.

No Contact

30 days of no contact means:

  • You do not call your ex.
  • You do not text your ex.
  • You do not comment on or like their social media posts.
  • You do not reply to their messages or answer their calls.
Most importantly, do not place yourself in the position to see them. Your aim here is not for your ex to forget about you but for them to forget about their negative beliefs around who they think you are. 30 days of no contact will allow your ex to let go of any emotions associated with the mistakes of the past and therefore provide you with a clean slate. If you happen to see your ex by accident, don’t linger around. Walk past them, smile and say “Hi”, but then discreetly make your exit. Do not underestimate the power of the no contact rule, especially if you are using it to manifest your ex back. Once you have that clean slate, your ex’s subconscious manifestations will weaken and therefore you can build a foundation to start winning them back. Often having no contact with an ex-partner will influence them to start missing you. If they start reminiscing on the good times, this will count toward their own subconscious manifestations and will likely help to bring you back together. During my own no-contact period, my intuition led me to this free Ex Factor presentation. Whenever you are manifesting, be sure to follow your intuition as this always put you in direct alignment with your desires.

“Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together.”

Lay Low On Social Media

If you have your ex on any of your social media accounts be sure not to block them.

Instead, just unfollow.

This way they know it’s nothing personal.

Following your ex-partner’s social media could trigger you to make contact.

This would be extremely counterproductive toward your manifestation process.

Do not bombard your own social media with posts and photos.

This will not allow your ex to have an adequate break away from you.

Instead, post very little or even better nothing at all for 30 days.

If you do decide to post on social media, be very careful about the image you are creating around yourself.

If you are posting about things that are depressing then your ex is going to subconsciously associate you with negative energy.

The same will happen if you are posting photos of yourself partying or looking promiscuous.

These kinds of photos will make you look as though you are trying to mask the fact that you are falling apart.

Keep your posts light-hearted and fun.

Paint yourself in a positive light as someone who has their life together.

Remember, it is better to stay away from social media altogether but if you must post, ensure that your image is radiant with positive energy.

How to Keep Busy During the No Contact Rule

How to keep yourself busy

During the 30 days of no contact, you should focus on your manifestation techniques to win your ex back.

Visualize the two of you being together again, practice your affirmations and assert your faith with the universe.

Let your manifestation routine be the driving force that gets you through those 30 days.

No contact is tough but just remember that it is for the best.

If you slip up and contact your ex during this time, you could seriously jeopardize getting him or her back.

When I talk about The Law of Attraction, I usually advise taking some kind of action.

There are physical steps you can be taking during these 30 days but that action is more to do with personal development.

Personal development will help you to bounce back feeling great and looking your best.

It will also help you to develop a more positive mindset which is always the most attractive quality a person can have.

Working on yourself will not only keep your mind off contacting your ex, but it will also help you to address any flaws that may have played a part in damaging the relationship.

Spend time outside

Some ways in which you can work on self-development include:

  • Setting personal goals (not including getting your ex back).
  • Going to the gym.
  • Committing to a daily meditation or yoga routine.
  • Working on nourishing your body with a healthy diet.
  • Enjoying more sunshine and fresh air.
  • Spending time with your friends and family.
  • Reading personal development books.
  • Limiting your time on social media.
  • Making time for self-love.

The most beneficial action within this list is without a doubt, meditation.

Entering a trance-like state without the thought chatter will teach you how to appreciate your solitude, accept yourself and better handle stressful situations.

Working on self-development now will help you to embody the best version of yourself by the time your ex comes running back.

What To Do If Your Ex Contacts You Within The 30 Days

30 day no contact calendar
9 times out of 10 it is best to not respond. If your ex sends you a message and it is urgent then you can reply, but keep it to the point and don’t be over-friendly or show emotion in the message. Do not use emojis or exclamation marks either. If they simply send you something like “Hey, how are you?” DO NOT reply. I know it can be really tempting but you need to ask yourself whether you want a short term prize or long-term happiness. If you start talking before you both have had time to do some soul searching, then you will soon find yourself in the exact same scenario that destroyed your relationship last time. In order to follow a new path in your relationship, you need to let the universe build a solid foundation and therefore realign you back together. Trust in the universe and lay low while you work on manifesting your ex back. Remember, these 30 days are vital for both of you to work on your inner selves. I don’t think I would have got through the no-contact period as easily as I did without a little extra help from the legendary Brad Browning. Check out his free presentation here.

What To Do Once The 30 Days Are Up

Once you have completed the no-contact period, your ex will have dropped their defensive energy that was previously working against you.

It is now up to you to test the waters and message your ex.

This message should be specific and not ask for too much of their time or input.

Remember, if you have been practicing your manifestation techniques then you should not have to chase your ex at all.

We all know that the Law of Attraction is working when our desires come to us with ease not when we tirelessly chase them down.

As an example, you could message something like…

“Hey, I found your sweater here. Would you like to pick it up? Otherwise, I could leave it in your mailbox if that’s easier? Hope you are well 🙂 “

(Make sure you actually do have an item of clothing if that’s what you are messaging about).

Alternatively, you could say something like…

“Hey, I was thinking about you last night. Hope all is well 🙂 “


“Hey, do you remember the name of that Mexican restaurant we went to last year? I am trying to make reservations but can’t remember what it’s called. Hope all is well :-)”

If they answer you, keep your reply brief and then cut the conversation. Something like…

“OK great, have a nice night.”

This shows your ex that you are happy and not desperate to rekindle things.

Desperation is an energetic force that repels other people but contentment and happiness attract.

Overall, remember to keep things simple.

From Here One of Two Things Will Happen…

1.) Your ex will contact you again within 7-14 days and strike up a conversation.

Remember to keep things light, positive and don’t bring up the past.

If this happens and you take things slow, you will soon find that you have been realigned to start building a fresh relationship with your ex.

2.) If your ex doesn’t contact you within this time frame, start the 30 days no contact period again.

Use this time to continue to work on manifesting your ex back with visualizations and affirmations.

Envision your ex reaching out to you and really focus on the two of you being together.

Have faith that it will happen.

Once the second no contact period is complete and you have done 60 days or more in total, send your ex another message.

Remember to keep it light and easy.

This method has been proven successful by many who have already manifested their ex’s back into their lives.

Not only that, but the relationships often have far more value and appreciation than ever before.

Taking some time to regenerate energies and to work with the power of the Law of Attraction is often all that is needed to re-inspire the unconditional love in a tired relationship.

Reigniting the spark!

As I mentioned earlier, Tom and I are now stronger than ever… All of the techniques listed in this article have been tried and tested by me and helped me to manifest my ex back… However… Unlike some “manifestation guru’s” out there, I don’t want to leave you high and dry by giving you half-truths and misinformation… You see, whenever you are consciously working with the Law of Attraction, you are never manifesting out of thin air. That’s not how it works in this physical reality. The truth is that whenever you set an intention, the universe will communicate with you, giving you signs and synchronicity toward aligned action. I always recognize divine guidance by a pull in my heart towards taking a certain action. During the time Tom and I were broken up I was a member of an awesome relationship forum online… I logged on one day when I was feeling particularly depressed and another member had started a thread about Brad Browning’s Ex-factor program. I read through the comments and soon realized that there were a ton of people raving about Brad and his methods. I literally felt it so strong in my heart that I had to check this out for myself! During the program, there were two really noticeable shifts that happened in my life… The first was that I stopped feeling so horrible… I became more confident in myself, started sleeping better and I stopped worrying about getting my boyfriend back. The second thing that happened is that I felt like Tom was actually beginning to notice… This is totally weird but I feel like the more confident I became, the more I noticed him liking my social media posts and showing up at places where he knew I would be… The ex-factor course is not based on the Law of Attraction as such but was still a helpful addition to my manifestation routine! I highly recommend checking out Brad’s short video presentation here.
Charlotte Rogers
Charlotte Rogers

Charlie is a spiritual manifestation coach/teacher that has helped thousands of people around the world manifest their goals and desires. She’s been featured on Elephant Journal, Addicted 2 Success & More!

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